Facing a divorce is never a pleasant situation, even if the parties are relatively amicable. Regardless of the level of conflict in a divorce, when a marriage ends, it is both an emotional and a logistical challenge on many levels. That is why if you are facing a divorce, seeking mediation may be one of your best options for minimizing disagreements and avoiding long, bitter court battles.
There are many benefits to mediation, and finding a skilled attorney who can assist you in the process is a good first step to exploring this process. Below are a few ways the mediation process can help ease the pain and difficulty inherent in a divorce proceeding.
When there are children
In many cases of divorce, there are young children in the family who inevitably play a central role in the process of determining what the divorced couple’s future looks like. When a divorcing couple is in high conflict, children can bear the brunt of the psychological trauma. A mediation avoids a court battle and is thus less stressful on children who are already under stress from the mere fact that their parents are divorcing. Plus, when parents cooperate, it can often result in joint custody, which can ensure that children have both parents present in their lives despite the divorce.
Reduced costs compared to litigation
Divorced couples who have been through a court litigation often have epic stories about the monumental legal fees they had to pay in order to finance their dispute. When a mediation is a viable option, it can help both parties save on legal costs. This is no small benefit, especially when many sources say that the typical contested divorce can cost between $15,000 to $20,000.
Control over decisions
Mediation lets you keep control in your hands regarding important decisions related to your family life. In a contested divorce, a judge will rule on the particulars that you and your ex-spouse are unable to agree on. When you opt for a collaborative approach, you may be able to avoid the court making decisions on your behalf.
Some divorces are so highly conflictual that mediation may not be a viable option. However, when there is room for negotiation and collaboration, this approach can be very beneficial. Take stock of your individual situation in order to determine whether you may be able to call on your attorney to assist you in a mediation rather than court litigation. The benefits can often outweigh the drawbacks and bring long-lasting solutions that work for everyone involved.