If you think that a divorce is hard on the adults, think about how difficult it is for the children who are involved. These youngsters likely don’t have the mental and emotional coping mechanisms that make it easy to go through this process. Still, they are stuck making major life upheavals when their parents divorce.
One thing that makes it hard for children is that they don’t have any control over the divorce. They can’t speak up and say what they want to happen and then find ways to make that occur. Instead, they might be able to give an opinion but that is about as far as it can go for them.
As a parent, you need to take steps to help your children adjust to the changes that are coming. You can do this by trying to provide the child with consistency that can help him r her feel more secure. If possible, try to keep as many aspects of the child’s life the same as before you divorced. This can be anything from letting the child stay in the same school to having bedtime stay the same.
While you do have a lot to think about with the divorce, you should also focus on making the child custody arrangement. This means that you will have to work with your ex, but being willing to do this can help your children greatly. Not only will they see that adults should have a good attitude when dealing with stressful situations but also that it is possible to remain respectful in the face of contention.
Source: Our Family Wizard, “Why Divorce is So Hard on Children,” accessed March 23, 2018